How Discovering Yourself Leads To Clarity, Fulfilment and Service


When I was a little boy, I wanted to join the military. To be allowed entry into the school, I had to write an entrance examination. Before we entered the hall to write, we were told to strip to our underpants. We were arranged in rows. The soldiers moved around us, inspecting our bodies. Those who had bow legs were ordered off, followed by those who big navels. Some others were ordered off based on some other judgments that I can’t remember now.

When it came to my turn, the soldier looked at me and said I had no physical stamina. How he came to that conclusion I can’t tell. That was the end. My desire to enrol into the army ended on that note. I was marched off the field. Years later, I noticed I really didn’t have stamina when I opted to play football. I was always falling on the pitch even when nobody was pursuing me. I guess the military was a seer of sorts.

Some days ago, Usain Bolt who was dethroned on his final 100-meter dash as a pro athlete. I watched him make a speech, devoid of the usual bravado I’ve always known him for. His muscles are screaming for a halt and he has finally bowed out of pro athletics.

Based on my story and Bolt’s farewell, I draw a parallel to the challenges that my friends who are living with the sickle cell who are not able to do some things like running in the rain or allowing exposures to mosquito bites or participating in very rigorous sporting activities.

Last year at my NLP training, all the participants were instructed by the trainer to close their eyes and raise our hands when we felt we had counted up to one minute. When all of us opened our eyes when the timer had turned one minute, I found out that I was the first person. My hand had shot up in the 30th second.

That moment sent me spiraling into my history. My final year grades during my secondary school studies topped everyone else’s. I topped my class from first year to final year during my university days. Since I started off my professional speaking career, I’d never gone to any speaking engagement late. It was a discovery worth of note.

While listening to a revolutionary message by T. Harv Eker, he shared a story of a woman who had furthered her ambition to become a nurse based on an emotional experience she had while she was younger. Her dad had slumped and died in her arms while having a verbal altercation with her mum. Her family was rich, but then working as a full time nurse years later, she was always broke, despite being paid relatively well in wages. After undergoing a session with Harv, a neural connection was made. The pain of her dad’s death established a subconscious implantation that made her repel money. Subconsciously, money meant pain and so whatever money that got into her hands had to leave. Secondly, she had gone on to become a nurse because she was overburdened with grief to save her dad. That translated into her desire to save others, too.

After the session, her financial blueprint was designed. What’s more, she discovered that her true path was to help others become financially free. She went ahead to train to become a financial advisor.

From the nurse’s story, we can establish the template that defines the events in people’s lives that lead them onto the paths they’re currently on in their lives. This is attributable to three factors.

  • Verbal Programming. What did you hear when you were growing up? Perhaps, you consistently heard that some professions were better than us and so you herded onto that path.
  • Modelling. What did you see when you were growing up? Perhaps, in your family, your parents were lawyers, your uncles and many other relations were lawyers, and so you naturally joined the expanding family league of lawyers.
  • Significant emotional experiences. The nurse in the above story fall into this category. I remember my friend, Dr Malik Haruna who runs a great blog, a fast-growing YouTube channel with over a million views and above 11,000 subscribers, and a Facebook community that is so engaging with discussions on health issues. He confided in me that he decided to save others when his uncle died from the shabby treatment meted to him by hospital staff during his health challenge with kidney damage.

The question then becomes : Why should you discover yourself?

The need for discovery is for three reasons.

  • Discovering yourself helps you come into sync with your core essence, bring you into harmony with your being, and helping you experience fulfilment.
  • Discovering yourself helps you journey along the path; that mission to humanity that utilises your gifts or talents.
  • Discovering yourself helps you know your boundaries of operation and fixating on intentionality while creating around a system that helps you replicate successes in your life.


Will you set on that journey today?