If anyone ever told me I’d sit down to watch Big Brother Nigeria three years ago, I’d have given the person a big slap. Well, err, not literally, but I’d have gone into an argument with the intention to drill home my own views that those who watch such senseless TV shows don’t have what to do with their time and lives.
If anyone had told me that I’d be an addict of Telemundo series on DSTV, I’d have told the person that she needed a psychiatric evaluation. And to talk of the fact that I’ve added Zeeworld series now.
Well, pin it down to evolution. I’ve evolved. My philosophy has changed. A few years from now, my philosophy will also change. Sadly, I can’t preempt what it is.
So, I began watching a new series on Telemundo called Love and Betrayal.
In one of the episodes a lady called Sarah falls in love with a con man called Avaro. Avaro is a lawyer who gets rich by marrying rich women, killing them and acquiring their wealth. When he meets Sarah, he is about to end the life of his second wife who is sick and dying in the hospital. He lies to Sarah about it and when his wife dies, he tells Sarah to falsify a document in order to provide a suitable alibi to forestall his going to prison. Sarah does so and when the truth comes into the open, Avaro leaves Sarah and vaults away, perhaps in the hunt for another woman whom he’ll prey on. Sarah breaks down in total anguish, distressed that she twisted her value to please Avaro.
At that point I remembered a message I’d listened to by Jim Rohn – The Art of Exceptional Living. Jim said something so profound about Judas in the Bible. He’d betrayed Jesus, gotten 30 pieces of silver (which by the way was some cool dough back in the days), became remorseful, and decided to send the money back to the scribes.
They refused to take the money back. Judas, feeling out of sorts with his essence because he’d twisted his values and having taken on an identity that made him feel disempowered, he went and hung himself. He took his life because he wanted to put an end to the torment, frustration and chaos that his life had become. All because he betrayed his master, a twisting of the value of trust reposed in him as a disciple.
That brings me to the core of this post.
I get a whole lot of messages in my inbox daily. I read a whole lot, sort out what I want, and trash the rest. However, there are messages that hit at the roof of my head and get me thinking deeply about my values.
“Emeka, I’ve seen that you’ve got lots of followers on Facebook. You see, there’s a business opportunity I want to introduce to you and based on the number of followers you have, you will make a million in a short time. Just write about it on your wall and you will see how people will join your team.”
I get such messages in my Facebook messenger inbox regularly from network marketing professionals. When I digest the import of the message, it shows me three things about my brand that makes me happy. They’ve seen that I’m bankable, trustworthy and credible to the point that a post of mine will get folks to join the network marketing business.
However, do a flip. Telling me that I’d make a million because I joined a business and then telling others to join raises a flag for me. Firstly, I’d not studied the business to know its viability. Entering it solely because of the quick bucks I’d make flies in face of reason for me.
By serving them to the best of my ability, they pay for the value that I bring to their lives which causes transformation. By asking me to immediately rally folks to help me rise to the top of the pyramid comes off as a slavery mentality to me. I feel like a user of people. And that’s not a value that I cherish.
The moment you go against your values, you’ve decided to embrace pain and anguish.
Like Judas, you could go shoot yourself in the foot the run long run. Your soul’s peace is worth it. It’s at this point that the Bible verse which asks, “What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?” makes a ton of sense.