2016 has come and gone. Before the year finally wrapped up, I was lost in thoughts. Of particular interest to me was why we usually celebrate the first day of the year.
What’s exactly the difference between the last day of one year and the beginning of the next? Doesn’t the sun rise as usual and go to work in the sky? Doesn’t the moon take over at night.
Somehow I think that in order for man to be able to bring finiteness to the infinite in order for comprehension to be gauged, we carve labels, boxes, and boundaries. I think that’s why we have calendars that demarcate a block of days and months. We want to measure stuff always, a pandering to definiteness which undergirds results.
For me, 2016 also came with its own bag of expectations. Things happened to me. I took charge. Some floored me. I cried a lot of times. I was hurt. I won some battles and got a few teeth knocked off in some. Like all humans, I had my own fair share.
In this post, I want to share four phenomenal lessons of mine as a result of the events of 2016. I do hope that they help you as you chart the course for 2017.
Lesson 1 : It’s okay to be fired. Just feedback from your failures.
I’d resigned from my job on the 18th of February, 2016. It stands out as the most audacious thing I’d done that year. I left Port Harcourt in April to be in Lagos for a month, connecting with clients who had signed me on, meeting with the people who had become members of my community, and taking note of the landscape in Lagos with regards for business expansion and exploits.
That same month, I was fired by one of my clients. I had just four regular paying clients at the time. Being fired didn’t bode well with my being. To make it so painful was the fact that the client was one who had made me feel like a king. During one of her projects, she’d flown me to Lagos, checked me into a hotel and had treated me very well. It was a loss that irked my mind. I felt I was creative. I felt I was a don whose work was excellent. Why would Emeka Nobis of all people be fired?
I went through the phases of grief for a few days, and when the waves had finally washed over, I settled into thinking through what had happened. After a critical look at the circumstances, a lesson that I learnt was to pay keen attention to the need of the client.
I felt my work was great. I felt I had to be given the latitude to operate. The client had given instructions for me to submit my ideas for ratification every week, but I felt it was shackling my creativity, so I ignored it. When the hammer hit, it was too late to make amends.
[shareable]Never ignore your client’s demands. At most, come to a middle ground on expectations.[/shareable]
Lesson 2 : Embrace your evolution.
When I was a student in the university, I loved travelling whenever darkness covered the earth. I’d wait for evening to come to commence my journey to our home. My dad’s voice always went hoarse from shouting about the dangers of night travelling. I never cared about his fears. It was exciting for me.
On the 30th of December while I sat drinking with a few old schoolmates of mine, we relished old times. The married ones in our midst expressed their peeves about staying out late at night. I admitted my own. These days, I feel my body itch when I’m outside my home beyond 9 p.m.
What does it mean? Is it because I am now married? But, there are many married folks who still enjoy the allure of night life. It just means that what excited me in the past doesn’t excite me anymore.
Prior to leaving my job, I kicked off my enterprise by developing content for personal brands. I was excited doing that and getting paid, but a few months after I’d resigned to focus fully on my business, I realised that content development for personal brands had become boring and time consuming for me. Also, it wasn’t profitable. I did an assessment and realised that consulting, coaching, and writing gave me the kicks.
I prayed that my clients would cancel their contracts. Gradually, they did. I must confess that the work of the last client I had contract on content development suffered. My zeal had completely nosedived. I couldn’t come up with enough creative content for the project. I truly struggled. Owning up to my client was a terrifying moment for me. I was willing for her to cancel the contract. She eventually did. In her mail, she said she wouldn’t pay for the last month of the contract. I consented to her decision.
[shareable]What’s the lesson? Embrace your evolution![/shareable]
Lesson 3 : It’s okay to goof. Just rejig!
By mid-June in 2015, I toyed with the idea of setting up a paid Facebook group. I’d wanted to run a group where every member paid a yearly fee to learn from me and connect with others in the community too. I devised how it would work and set up EMBRYONIC. In the first 4 months of the group, there was a lot of engagement, camaraderie, and excitement.
By the sixth month, I began to sense that I’d taken a plunge that wouldn’t last. From that point, I began to struggle, not with creating the content the group was nourished with, but with the joy and purpose for which I had set it up. I felt that delivering content in the group in an orderly fashion for such a long time could weary me out. It did.
I made close to N2m in 2016 by running the group, but by December I knew I had to shut it down. It hurt a whole lot, but I had to wait for the subscription to run out before doing so. I felt bad because I didn’t want to come off as someone who would start and stop. I remembered I trained as an engineer. Projects start and end for many reasons.
I have apologised to members of the group about its closure and will wrap things up this January. I accepted the fact that I goofed by not thoroughly thinking stuff through regarding the longevity and sustenance.
[shareable]So, what’s the lesson? It’s just okay to goof. Just rejig![/shareable]
Lesson 4 : I learnt to ask better questions.
My secondary school phase was an exciting one. It was a school that truly raised champions. Students took pride in challenging teachers. If a teacher used a particular type of textbook, we’d discover another type of textbook on the same subject matter and garner points with which we presented more or better facts.
We kept our teachers on their toes constantly. Our answer scripts bore evidences of researches we had done on subject matters, to the elation of our teachers. A teacher who wasn’t ready to study and better herself wouldn’t last in our midst.
University silenced that penchant for intellectual sparring. Our lecturers couldn’t stomach students who challenged them. Such was seen as punishable by a string of failures that would frustrate the erring student. We turned into students who swallowed and regurgitated, never asking questions.
Last year, that art of asking questions was revived. I began to challenge the religious beliefs I’d held onto over the years. I began to get empowering answers. I enrolled into an academy and became trained on coaching methodologies. My business took a new turn and a colourful dimension.
Questioning helps to expand my cerebral limits. It forces me to read voraciously. I’m a dunce in many areas, but as I long as I live, I’ll commit to learning like a raving junkie.
Questions aids my diversification. I’m delving into different markets as my business evolves. Each individual that I question is a microcosm of a market. Questioning aids me to get insights into what the market needs.
[shareable]Want to become better at what you do? Learn to ask questions![/shareable]
There go my four top lessons for 2016. I hope they help your quest.
On the 27th of this month, I shall gift humanity with something remarkable. Keep tabs. Share with your friends, too.
At this point, I’ll ask you to look back at the 12 months of this year.
Did you achieve all that you set out to achieve? Not more, but just what you had set forth on your plate in December 2015.
Maybe you set out with the intention of really taking things to a bigger level and creating streams of income that would enable you to finally quit your job like I did.
Maybe you desired to become the leader you always desired to be, but your words couldn’t even inspire turtles to move faster.
Perhaps, you set a goal of being more vicious with your showcasing, but at some point you lost the zeal and your muscles wilted one more time.
Perhaps, you told yourself on January 1st, 2016 that 2016 would be your year of great exploits, but looking back now, you’re fighting to beat the tears of disappointment.
Take a moment now to close your eyes and check in with how you really feel.
Did you like the feeling you had when you closed your eyes?
If you did, would you love to heighten the intensity in 2017?
If you didn’t, would you love to completely change the narrative and by the end of 2017 you’d be the first to send me an email about how ecstatic you feel?
If you feel lost, disappointed in yourself, and completely flattened that you have no plans for 2017, there’s something I want you to know.
I struggled like you at some point.
You know what my struggle was?
As a trained coach, utilising SAGE strategies to help individuals and organisations achieve phenomenal successes via repatterning, I’m willing to help just 10 individuals right here in the city of Owerri to make 2017 sizzle.
It will be a 4-hour coaching experience tagged Visionary 2017.
It will hold in an exotic hotel in Owerri. This is ONLY for VERY SERIOUS individuals.
I’ll help YOU review your goals for year, appraise them, and aid you with the effective strategies on how to raise your earnings.
This experience is strictly for business owners, consultants, writers and leaders.
The venue will be made known to only those who are willing to be part.
Date : Saturday, 7th January, 2017 | 10 a.m.
You can join me in Owerri for this experience.